ROSS FARR COUNSELING & PSYCHOTHERAPY
I offer individual counseling and therapy in Seattle.
Currently offering short-term, reduced-cost therapy for essential workers.
I am a licensed mental health counselor associate (LMHCA) in Washington State, license number MC60968158. I have a clinical supervisor: Joseph Canarelli, LICSW, license number LW00009353.
Some of the issues I help clients address include:
Feelings of loss of meaning
Grief & loss
Career changes, including retirement
Issues around sexual orientation
Issues around gender identity
Feelings of spiritual emptiness
If you would like to learn more about me and my approach to counseling and therapy, you can use the menu at the top of the page or continue to scroll down.
If you feel suicidal right now, or just need immediate support, you can text the crisis text line: text "HOME"to 741741 and someone who is trained to help will respond 24/7. You can also call the King County crisis line:1-866-4-CRISIS (1-866-427-4747) or 206-461-3222.
ABOUT COUNSELING & THERAPY
Sometimes we could just use some insight. A counselor provides confidential, compassionate space to explore thoughts and feelings that we may not be comfortable sharing with others. We might have a particular problem or question that is weighing on us. Maybe there was a change in a relationship or in our professional life that we want perspective on. We may need support after the loss of a job or a loved one. Counselors usually don’t give advice, but big questions are always welcome. Counseling is often short term – maybe 6-8 weekly sessions.
When we struggle with persistent anxiety, depression, hurt, or problematic habitual patterns, deeper, more sustained work can help. This usually involves weekly (or sometimes more frequent) sessions over a longer period. Therapy can offer insight into previously unseen or misunderstood themes in our thoughts, behavior, and feelings. A therapist brings attunement, compassion, and insight to those parts of ourselves that may be difficult to explore on our own. Old wounds, including past trauma, can be carefully explored and tended to. We may find that we need to process the emotional impact of something we experienced in the past. This can be poignant work. Sometimes it does not feel linear. Often, lasting, meaningful change happens through the therapeutic relationship.
I provide counseling and therapy to individuals from a relational psychodynamic perspective. In general terms, this means that I listen with curiosity and compassion for deep thematic threads that may run through your past and present experiences of yourself – as an individual but especially in relationships with others. I do not have an off-the-shelf set of therapeutic techniques that I use for every client. I do have training and experience that helps me offer insight into what may feel confusing or problematic. Together we can explore whether my insight feels accurate and what meaning may emerge from it.
Within the context of our work, I may suggest that we use mindfulness/grounding exercises, which can help address immediate symptoms of anxiety. I also use elements of cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT), acceptance and commitment therapy (ACT), and emotionally focused therapy (EFT), as well as other modalities.
I became a therapist after practicing law for about 15 years. I enjoyed many aspects of practicing law, but I also saw a lot of suffering. On all sides of a legal dispute, people can feel wronged, hurt, misunderstood, and afraid. Sometimes the facts of a case support good legal arguments, but often resolving the legal issues does not make people feel better. I thought that there must be a way to help people that did not reinforce a binary narrative of winners and losers and affirmed a wider spectrum of human experience.
Then, someone I knew from law school died by suicide. Within a few months, I learned of another attorney who had died by suicide, and then another. This reinforced my decision to make a career shift and find a way to help. I went back to school and got a master’s degree in counseling psychology from Bastyr University, which included a 12-month internship at Seattle Counseling Service, where I provided therapy to primarily LGBTQIA+ individuals. This allowed me to bring my identities as a cis (I identify as the gender I was assigned at birth), gay man directly to bear on my work in a new way.
My counseling practice includes working with those in the legal profession and those who identify as LGBTQIA+, including those questioning their sexual or gender identity, but is not limited to people in either group.
FREE 20-MINUTE CONSULTATION
Finding a therapist who is a good fit is important. I offer a free 20-minute phone consultation, during which you can ask about me and I can learn a little about you and what you are looking for in counseling or therapy.
Counseling sessions are 50 minutes. My fee per session is $120. I accept checks, credit/debit and FSA/HSA cards as forms of payment at the time of service. I do not accept insurance at this time, but I am happy to provide bills suitable for you to submit to your health insurance carrier. I offer a limited amount of reduced-fee sessions through Open Path.
Your scheduled appointments are reserved just for you. Cancellations with less than 24 hours’ notice will result in your responsibility for my full fee.
Email and the form here are best used to ask to schedule an initial consultation. Please do not include any confidential personal information.
1904 Third Avenue
Seattle, WA 98101